Dealing with unexpected change can be bothersome—especially if you’re a person who loves mapping out your life and living according to schedule. We all have to come to the realization that not everything that happens to us, ‘for’ us or around us is beneficial to us.
But change isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Going from getting used to someone and sort of incorporating them into your life to doing away them is hard. Going from having a set routine back into the redundancies of whatever the ‘basic’ life is for you is gut-wrenching for a moment. It seems like nothing ever works out or somehow everyone you come in contact with is just using you some way or another.
You could think that way. Or you could realize that perhaps you were or are supposed to serve as their intervention. Let’s face it. Some people are downright wicked. They smile in our faces, they tell us they love us and they even go as far as pretending to support us before plodding off down the road to their true life. I get it. Nothing hurts worse than to be stabbed in the back or to truly love and care and see that person you extended that love to act, if even for a moment, as if none of it meant a thing.
This happens in life. Eventually, the giver gets tired—and guess what? It will continue to happen as long as humans exist and as long as you are living, these people will potentially come in contact with you and there really isn’t anything you can do about it except brace yourself.
People are constantly asking me how I put up with some of the troubled people I have met and the answer is simple. I don’t. Yep, you read right. I don’t really put up with people. You see, I can coach and counsel you and even be a shoulder to cry on but the moment you show me your true colors is the moment I know that you no longer care and so I no longer serve a purpose in your life.
You know it’s bad when you can’t even find the words to express the frustration that the let-down has caused and what’s even worse is that the person continues on like nothing happened. You took note because you were legitimately in it. They moved along because they never really were with you in the first place.
While it’s easy to sulk or lock yourself away and pretend you don’t want to see the sun anymore, you could always do something productive. Like love again. Do that thing you were into before you were interrupted. Have a little more you time—heal with music.
Life, all of life, is essentially just a series of moments. Each moment has its ups and downs and no, every day is isn’t always beautiful and perfect but it can be if you want it to…
I say this as a reminder to never look at life like you don’t have a choice or like you can’t do it. You can. Even when nothing is going according to plan you can. Even if you made a mistake you can. Even in solitude you can. And you will like so many that came before you.
Until next time friends…