You Are the Problem

If you carried yourself better you wouldn’t be treated as if you’ve committed a crime. Perhaps enunciating when you speak, wearing a business suit and ‘combing’ your hair works when you don’t have textured hair and black skin but such is not the case for those of us who live this life every. Single. Day.

Do people follow you around the store? Are people pretending as if they are trying to ‘help’ you when you are minding your own business? Do people assume you are ignorant? Are the police called on you because you decided to order your meal at the drive-thru window and eat in the parking lot? Do people assume and therefore speak to you as if you’re a willful idiot? If the answers to these questions are no, you shouldn’t be giving people who live such a life every. Single. Day. Pointers.

It’s funny how many people have so much to say about Ze Blacks but will NEVER and I do mean EVER make the same memes, posts, and articles about white people. Oh well, a lot of people liked my post. *Clicks on likes—clicks on pages—scrolls through posts—sips coffee to white supremacist messages and calls to killing blacks* Yep. Sure. Okay. They should be able to speak their minds but by sheer virtue of existing and being black I should be shot and killed.

This issue highlights the normalization of stereotyping black people. It also highlights this idea that white people are incapable of being malicious criminals. When we make these blanket statements about entire groups we don’t care that the people pertaining to those groups will respond or have a reaction because let’s be real. Quite frankly, what those people think is irrelevant to society. What we are doing instead is calling negative attention to these people and inciting hatred based on the idea that these people are bad.

This conversation wouldn’t be had if the same things happened to people at the same rate across the nation. To say such is the truth would be complete and utter bullshit, and you know it. Anything to excuse the mistreatment of black people. Literally anything.

Notice how no one wants to hear what a black person has to say about any of this. When a black person speaks on their own issues an argument ensues. Suddenly everyone joins hands to tell the black person how and why their own life’s situations are invalid and how the outsider’s viewpoints are correct. Those same people who make these shady posts pertaining to black people turn around and say that black people act as if they are victims which is interesting because so many outlets launch attacks against Ze Blacks simply because they exist.

If I wrote a post on white people right now folks would lose their minds. You people are always trying to throw the blame. OMG you’re trying to start a ‘race war.’ Oh my goodness, you’re a libtard because I have literally nothing of substance to say to you. Everyone always says bad things about us. This post is not fair but the one I just read dehumanizing black people is because I’m not black. But what about affirmative action? Well you had Obama!

It’s kind of weird. None of the responses are objective and none of them have anything to do with the point. The ownership of black bodies. You want to dictate what I should and should not do but then turn around and want to talk accountability. None of this really makes sense. Paternalism at its finest.

Watch the conversation surrounding what happens in my life turn into a debate on freedom of speech and why someone outside of my body and my home should have absolute control over who I am and how I am perceived. Watch the conversation turn into someone making assumptions about who I am based off a rapper that I don’t support and have nothing to do with.  Watch the conversation turn into democrats vs. republicans. Watch the conversation be turned into who uses the word ‘nigga.’

© Kyanna Kitt

8 thoughts on “You Are the Problem

  1. Ok, Kyanna.. engage me. I’m an older white guy, which might imply a stereotype of some level of racism, being a carry over of some “old days” of racial perception. I grew up in the civil rights movement; I could very well hold some racial “apprehensions”, or grudge. I’m sure your senses might suggest to be wary because I seem to fit some stereotype to you… which might mean I could just be another white person wanting to dump their racial comparisons on you being a black person. Would I be close?

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    1. Doug, I don’t sense anything particular about you. I don’t stereotype people. I don’t see someone who looks different than me and say well he/she should be shot. I don’t daydream about hurting and mistreating people because they don’t look like me. I don’t tell people they are a problem because they don’t look like me either. I don’t operate that way.


      1. Well, as you know, racism need not have violent tendencies associated with it. That was my actual point… along with the fact that stereotyping is an instinctual human trait that need not have anything to do with racism.
        ..and of course, I never once thought you racially stereotyped. Nothing you have posted has suggested that to me. But you did post wanting to convey a message.

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      2. I don’t think stereotyping is normal. I don’t do it and therefore don’t understand why people assume things about folks based on their race. Also, violence doesn’t necessarily have to be present for racism to exist but when there are calls to violence simply because someone is a race perceived as inferior for whatever reason the case becomes obvious.


      3. Actually… and try to imagine way above racial applications.. you do stereotype. The fact that humans reason and determine cause and effect, means we also stereotype based on cognitive experiences. The most obvious application of stereotyping is what harms us. If you live in a geographical region of the country that has rattlesnakes, and your walk to the mailbox you encounter a snake.. you will likely give that snake wide birth.. walk around it.. not knowing what harm it could do, simply because you know there are rattlesnakes are in the area. Yet that snake could very well be benign to humans, like the Bushsnake (looks very much like a rattlesnake). In fact, my GF kills any snake of size she comes across out of fear it is a rattler… whether it’s a rattler or not. She’s a snake racist. 🙂 Anyway, it’s because of our human instinct to survive that we have the ability to pigeon-hole threats. It’s not surprising that is also how we may judge each other, unfortunately. Now, I am not suggesting one bit that racism is Nature’s fault. I am saying, the process TO stereotype is part of who we are… yet stereotyping itself is not racism.
        I’m in no way trying to diminish what you posted… just continuing our dialog a bit.


      4. Adding to the discussion is fine. Being afraid of snakes is different than threatening to end a human persons life just because we look different. I’m not going to agree with stereotyping or extremist behavior. It isn’t normal. Comparing a snake to a human doesn’t even sound right. At no point do we have this discussion when animals are involved. Once again when a black person details and outlines their life all of a sudden it’s up for debate.


      5. I will never, ever, be able to even imagine the struggles of African-Americans because I am not an African-American, and at this stage in life, I likely never will be. There is no debate. Just feelings we are all entitled to. I appreciate your sensitivity to the issue, and I apologize if I am unable to relate… and my attempted explanation of human behavior offended. It won’t happen again.


      6. Your comments are not offensive. The snake thing kind of made me scratch my head. There is nothing wrong with inquiring and speaking from your perspective. We’re speaking. That’s what matters.


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