Stuck in the muck of rubber soles
Mashing fervor against the ground
Ramming incessantly deeper into my brain
Making promises that I can’t keep
I never do…
Tied down to something more
Realizing sown seeds of decades’ past
Hooking into whatever passes by
Hoping for something stronger
I can still smell the autumn leaves
Strong coffee brewing
Heavily sweetened, full, robust
Or merely a replication of myself…
In the depth of time’s progression
Always one and never together
Ours is a glorious esprit de corps
I crave him like sweet nectar
Whose beauty comes second to none
And at dawn, within his hand, I am whole again
If only he knew
Like the sun this too will rise and fall
And some day
Together, we’ll smile.
For the longest time I beat myself up over what I would call my inability to keep friends. I would blame myself for friends not being there. Each and every time someone would cross me I would search for the reasons why I deserved to put last. I am on a journey to achieving balance and of all of the things that I am up against, holding myself accountable for the actions of others is one of my biggest faults.
I had a friend who I thought I had a really good relationship with this person would find all of the time in the world for guys but when it came to us hanging out and doing things that girlfriends do there was suddenly always a conflict of interest. Eventually we stopped talking and naturally I blamed myself for the relationship failing even though I reached out to the individual multiple times. I’ve never had ill feelings towards this person. There was never any animosity, jealousy or bitterness on my part. We were supposed to be best friends but when one half of a relationship up and leaves what can you do? How do you process that information?
Being positive isn’t about being perfect or transforming into this creature that has no emotional response to the world around us, in fact, that is what makes us human. Our responses and judgement take more than just affirmations and wishful thinking to tame. Learning to be positive is also taking hurtful situations and learning to turn them into something beneficial.
Maybe you’ve learned something about yourself that you can take away from the situation to use elevate you to higher places in life. Maybe you’ve learned to be a better communicator and to be assertive about your expectations. Maybe you’ve learned that you don’t do well in certain situations—perhaps you’ve even learned how to maneuver through those situations in a way that makes life easier. Letting bygones be gone is accepting that what has happened can’t be changed and while anticipating the future is helpful for a handful of people living in the present is best.